Now, as a 31 year old woman, I can see where those teachings can allow naivety to blur normal social boundaries.
I have a neighbor who tends to come over to visit every time I'm in the yard and if he doesn't catch me outside, he'll just knock on my door.
At least twice in the past two months I've been in my back yard, once relaxing on the deck with a book, once by my fire pit chilling when he came for a "visit." I've tried going to the door with my cell phone to my ear (since I'm actually on a call). He doesn't mind. I've also shouted back to Kingsley on Skype "Honey, I'll be right there!" from the front door. This man doesn't seem to notice.
He seems kind-hearted, has a lovely wife and grandkids and is very helpful but I'm starting to cringe when he comes 'round and go inside when he pulls up to his home. That's not a nice feeling.
I should have set the boundaries when I first moved in but I wanted to be friendly, to make friends, to be seen as the "nice" neighbor. To respect others, even if they don't respect my need for privacy or personal space.
This isn't the only issue but I've found - it's only the men in the neighborhood that seem to be overly friendly. The ladies politely wave, chat for a few minutes when we're out doing yard work and listen as much as they talk. No female neighbor has EVER knocked on my door in the five months I've lived here.
Is it me? Yes. I'll blame myself for not being more obvious. If I don't want you to come round, if I don't want help, instead of being a people pleaser, I should just be HONEST. I am naive. I trust people and give them the benefit of the doubt to a fault.
Some people, I'm finding, expect more than friendship.
However, I'm learning. When you buy a house, you don't have to be best friends with those living around you. Who knew? If you are, that's an amazing bonus!
What about you? Do you spend time with your neighbors every week? What's "normal?" Am I just being rude?