This week on Bald Head Island I was fortunate to take a private yoga lesson with Betsy of Bald Head Island Yoga. She was amazing and challenged me to try new poses and gave me tips on upping my vinyasa and warrior poses. Then I attended a group lesson at the Shoal's Club that is hosted on the observation deck overlooking the ocean. It was a magical, cleansing experience. I feel like we've all had to face bad vibes recently (politics, shootings, division) and I'm trying to look up.
Do you ever feel like there is just too much negativity in your life? I can certainly look at the bad things (and yes there are bad things in everyone's life) and get pretty down. What am I doing with my career? Are we going to have a family? If so when? How am I going to lose 20 pounds? Will we ever find a house that is perfect for us? How can I be in two places at once? How can I make this person happy? When can I find time to do what I want to do? Add your own questions here...
Yoga has helped me deal with negativity by realizing - I can only control myself and how I react to negativity. I'm learning that yoga practice has a lot to do with balance. It is easier to balance in poses by engaging your core (squeezing your abs) and breathing in and out, steadily. You also have to set a solid foundation by pressing your heel into the mat and spreading your toes.
One of the meditations that I heard last week had to do with the fight or flight phenomenon. On the mat you can either fight the pose and be miserable, fly out of the pose and give up, or stay and BREATHE. Instead of being reactionary, I'm trying to get to the space that says, "I don't know what's next, but right now I'm fine and I'm going to breathe." In life, I'm going to spread my toes and feel the foundation of age, some wisdom, and compassion that I already have. I can't force others to be kind or make plans for the future, or give me a job, etc., but I CAN control how I face it all. With grace? That's what I'm striving for on the mat and off. It isn't easy, but yoga helps - even for an hour - I quiet my mind, breathe, and stretch into the present moment.