Approaching 35

Saturday, 10 May 2014
I cannot believe that I'm about to turn 35 and I'm not where I'd originally planned to be at this age.

Does that really matter? What does it actually mean to be 35? I'd guess it means different things, at different ages, in different cultures.

In my culture (good 'ole US of A) it means that you can be who you are and who you want to be but there are boundaries. Do you plan on being a single woman? Then you should count on many people asking you about your status: "Are you ever going to settle down?" "Is the guy you are dating the ONE?" If you are single and also working on your PhD it is probably more complicated than that.

Your family wants to make sure that even though you are earning a higher degree you are well on your way to getting married and having children. (My family is thankfully supportive of my advanced education.) If you're not sure that you want to do so, there will still be pressure from different sources such as: magazines, newspapers, blogs, websites, television shows, billboards, signs in department stores, neighbors...

How to combat the reality of the pressure? We need to continue working on embracing how we are and discovering what makes us happy. That's the great part of being in your 30s, you start to really get to know yourself and what you want.

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